Going back to work after maternity leave "is a big transition, and the research shows that--for many women--the return to work happens before they are ready and is harder than they expect."
I should have returned to work over a month ago. My doctor's note wrote me off for eight weeks because I had a c-section. FMLA, my district's policies, private disability insurance, and our savings are allowing me to extend my leave.
I am grateful to be in a position to spend extra time with my smiley baby Noutin and his sister. I know most moms don't have workplaces as supportive as mine.
I also know some moms aren't as willing to take a break from work as I am. I get it. If I was younger, I would have wanted to jump right back into my classroom. It was that annoying savior complex crap that sneaks into teacher brains. That, and the belief that my entire identity was that of an overachiever teacher.
To my pregnant and maybe-someday friends, figure out a way to take as much time as you possibly can. Save your sick days. I used more than 50 when I had Nouarie. Talk to your union, HR, and insurance companies far in advance. Squirrel away your tax return. Work with your significant other to find a way to spend as much time as you can with your baby.
Going back to work is hard. I've had three good mama friends go back within the last month. It's so stressful, but it's also so good to be able to support your family and set a good example to your kids.
Experienced mama friends, how much maternity leave did you get/take? Any suggestions for new and future mamas?
Quote: Strong As a Mother: How to Stay Healthy, Happy, and (Most Importantly) Sane from Pregnancy to Parenthood by Kate Rope
I'm a teacher, mama, and mentor. I created the You Before School e-course and more. I'm here to encourage and share self-efficacy skills for women.