“If we start with that, with wanting girls to see themselves from the inside out rather than outside in, we will go a long way toward helping them find their true happily-ever-afters.”
“What’s ‘nerdy’ mean, Mommy?”
“It means you’re really smart and happy. Sometimes nerds wear glasses to read more.” We were talking about an inflatable holiday decorations during a walk the other day.
“Are you and daddy nerds?”
This was right after Nouarie’s most recent ophthalmology appointment.
As we left the doctor’s office, the nurse had handed her princess stickers. We don’t do princesses, but I was being too polite and accepted them.
On the way home, I asked her what a princess does. She replied, “spins in circles.” I don’t know where she got that, but I just laughed and the stickers when we got home.
I know most of you would rather call girls in your life princesses instead of nerds, but I want Nouarie to be a nerd. I want her love of learning to stand out more than her appearance. I want her to have girl friends. I want her to have healthy relationships. I want her to be confident.
The actual ophthalmologist did have some good news though: she can stop wearing her eye patch. She was hoping for glasses to match her cousins, but not yet. For now, she can keep stealing mine while I’m holding her brother.
PS I’m also going to work on saying “No, thank you” when we are offered princess gifts.
Quote: “Cinderella Ate My Daughter: Dispatches from the Front Line of the New Girly-Girl Culture” by Peggy Orenstein
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