“On a perfect day in your perfect little world (and it's always perfect) there is breakfast time, playtime, lunchtime, nap time, snack time, dinnertime, bath time, story time, and bedtime. There is time for everything when you are the timekeeper.”
I remember sitting in my loft with tabs of newborn schedules open on my laptop before Nouarie was born. I wrote down what I thought was the perfect schedule, times and all.
Some of you are laughing (experienced moms). Some of you are wondering what the schedule looked like (expecting and future mamas). Some of you may even be still trying to follow a schedule you read about (new first-time mamas). It’s okay.
I’m sure you can guess what happened to that schedule.
Nouarie and I eventually slowly found our routine. It’s actually pretty similar to the one quoted above that the author of “Momma Zen” created with her daughter. Sometimes I get overly ambitious and to schedule a day with blocks of time the way I did when I was only responsible for myself. It doesn’t work. It just stressed us all out.
We’re finally beginning to really get a little rhythm going with little brother included. It begins with morning snuggles in the bed and often ends with two babies falling asleep in my arms. The times change, but the overall routine stays the same.
To my handful of new and future mama friends, try to relax. Do what the baby and you need. Your routine will emerge. Give it time instead of timing.
Do you follow a timed schedule? A routine? How do your days begin and end?
Quote: Momma Zen by Karen Maezen Miller
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