It feels like the whole world is watching and judging when you’re out with a baby.
The worst is when the baby’s fussing and you’re trying to breastfeed.
I try to tell myself to stop worrying about what other people think. Sometimes I’m good at it, but other times is gets to me and I become even more flustered—especially about a month ago when I was still very sleep deprived.
Lately, I’ve been looking for the sympathetic and nostalgic eyes of older mamas and grandparents. I focus on them instead. I try to convince myself that the people I think are being judgmental are really just wishing they had a baby in their arms.
Last week, an elderly man offered to help me load the car at Costco. I love little moments like that. I have a collection of little acts of kindness from strangers that I try to remember instead of the what-are-you-doing eyes.
When I see new mamas struggling or breastfeeding in public, I try to remember to at least say “Good job!” as I pass.
What do you do when you see a struggling mama? I hope you’re not one of those shut-that-baby-up types! 😁
Supportive high-fives to all my mom friends avoiding eye judgmental eye contact! You’re not alone.
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