"Self-efficacy is really the final frontier for women"
Yesterday, I read about this in a book I'm re-reading and can't get the idea out of my head.
In case you need a vocab refresher like I did: self-efficacy is confidence in your skills to control your motivation, behavior, and environment.
Ladies, so many of us often feel so out of control in relation to:
Right? When we feel out of control, we don’t speak up and then get even more stressed out. That’s me!
Get this, Kathy Korman Frey claims that we begin to lose confidence in ourselves as teenagers and then begin putting others first; soon after, our lives become so busy that we never even think about it.
Aah! How true is this?! I thought it was just me! I thought it was just from too many messages like "help people at all times." (Girls Scouts, sound familiar?)
We can fix it though! The researcher says we build self-efficacy by:
•Doing things well to built mastery
•Finding role models and mentors
•Listening to, and believing, positive messages
•Recognizing and controlling negative patterns and thoughts
I’m so intrigued and motivated to learn more about this to help myself and others. I can see areas where I feel like I have a strong start and areas where I have some work to do.
Positive messages is one I want to work on right away. I’m going to stop follow my negative accounts and look for some more positive ones. Any suggestions?
Quote: Frey as quoted in Overwhelmed: Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time by Brigid Schulte
I'm a teacher, mama, and mentor. I created the You Before School e-course and more. I'm here to encourage and share self-efficacy skills for women.